All my life, I've had to eat.....I mean eat a lot...just so I don't look sickly. I have always wanted to gain weight and everyone always told me not to wish that on myself LOL "girl don't say that! Enjoy your small frame!" Then I would also get the looks of "mm...Do you even eat?" Yes, yes I do actually! Weight loss is always at the top of everyone's list, but what about the women who want to GAIN weight? I am here for it!
I played basketball and ran track in high school so I always had a healthy appetite and a great work out regime. I played basketball year round so I was always in shape. I mean my body was right and tight, thick muscular legs, plump booty, small waist and toned arms. When I went to college, I didn't play any sports because I just wanted to concentrate on my school work. (That didn't work out so well LOL) Everyone talks about gaining the freshman 15....I lost 15 pounds my first year in college. Say Wheeettt!!??!! Ummm....I was so confused... And if you remember, I went to an HBCU (Historically Black College) in the south where the females were born thick and here comes my scrawny self tryin' to be cute! Ha! I ate all the fast food, cafeteria food, and homemade food you could dream of yet I still couldn't gain weight. "You just have a high metabolism"...They said..."You just have good genes..." They said ... No, I can't FIT my jeans, ma'am...that's the problem! I just want to fill out my pants like I used to!! LOL
So years passed and I just accepted the fact that I wasn't going to gain weight. Then I got into a relationship and my significant other at the time would make comments about my body, not positive ones to be clear. And just like that, I became self conscious about my body again. Which leads me to my question, what about the skinny girls? Body shaming does not just happen to bigger women. Body shaming happens to any woman that someone feels does not fit the standard of what a woman should look like. Dealing with humans, those standards change from person to person. I have been called plenty of names and made fun of for not having the body that is "acceptable" for a woman in the south. I wasn't thick, I didn't have a big booty, I had small breasts...and to top it off....I speak proper English, meaning I enunciate my words aka I talk like a white girl. So I was just all the way out of your typical "southern black woman" category lol
Needless to say, I left that relationship and learned to love myself completely (which is a whole other blog topic in itself) and once I did that, I didn't care if I was tall, short, fat, skinny, proper, ghetto....I was content with me. Now, some blame it on the fact that I have hit that over 30 mark, but recently I have put weight on like I have been wanting to for years! My face is full again, my thighs are thick enough to save lives again (thick thighs save lives for the slow one's in the back LOL), my buns are beautiful and plump again....it is really just a beautiful thing! How did I do it? I had a birthday, turned 31, started eating any and everything and watched myself grow! HA!No but seriously, My FitBit played a HUGE roll in my weight gain journey. I put in my current weight at the time and put in the weight I wanted to reach and my FitBit did the rest! It would tell me how many calories I needed to eat each day, it would track my cardio throughout the day to monitor the ratio of calories going out to calories coming in. It would even tell me when I needed to get up and move around! After strictly going by what the fit bit said, my body got used to what it was supposed to do and it became almost second nature....to just eat. LOL With that being said, I didn't eat the healthiest of foods. So now I have a bit of a gut....Just can't win, right?! But I love it...all of it!
I said all this to say, if you are small and want to gain weight OR if you are bigger and want to lose weight...be sure that you love yourself completely before going on that journey. If you don't, you will never be satisfied with the results because true beauty starts within yourself. No matter what remember, that you are beautiful!
Love,
Meek
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